- A moment, a change, or an experience sets off a strong reaction inside of you. Your nervous system is picking up on something it remembers as unsafe, even if nothing is actually threatening you in the present moment. Your body starts to respond before your brain catches up.
- Pause before reacting. Your first impulse might be to lash out, shut down, or escape. Instead, take a breath. When you’re activated, slowing down can feel unnatural. To help, do something small and intentional to give yourself a moment, like taking a sip of water or counting to five.
- Check in with your body. If you’re struggling to name what you’re feeling, focus on where it’s showing up physically. A lump in your throat might signal sadness. A tight chest could be anxiety. Heat in your face might be anger. Your body often senses emotions before your mind fully processes them.
- Name the emotion. Putting words to what you are feeling helps create distance from it. Instead of saying: “I am anxious.” Say “I am feeling anxious>” or “I’m experiencing frustration.” This reminds you that emotions are temporary experiences not who you are.
- Regulate your nervous system. Triggers activate your nervous system, making it hard to think clearly. Your body might shift into fight, flight, freeze or fawn mod. Regulating your nervous system brings you back to the present. Trey:
- Inhaling through your nose, exhaling through your mouth
- Shaking out your hands, stretching, or stepping outside
- Naming five things you see to ground yourself.
- Let the emotions pass. When we are activated, emotions feel urgent, but they don’t last forever. The more you resist or suppress them, the stronger they feel. Allow yourself to experience the emotion without letting it take over. If it helps, picture it as a leaf floating down a river or a cloud passing in the sky. It’s there, but not for you.
- Recognize you’re safe now. When you’re triggered, your brain treats the moment like an old threat, pulling you back into a past experience. Instead of getting stuck in that past version of yourself, remind yourself:
- I am in the present. I am safe.
- This is an old feeling, but this is a new moment.
- I have tools now that I didn’t have then.
- Prepare for next time. Healing doesn’t mean never getting triggered; it means having the awareness and tools to navigate it differently. Notice patterns. Identify what sets you off and how you want to respond. If you know certain situations will challenge you, mentally rehearse how you’ll handle them. The more you practice, the more control you’ll gain.
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